Article Review: Humbleness and Forgiving

Article: This Trait Could Be Key to a Lasting Romance "We found that people who felt their partner or spouse was humble were more likely to forgive them following a hurtful situation." "[Being humble] means you can acknowledge mistakes … and identify areas for improvement." Forgiving helps to heal from a hurtful situation in a …

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Trigger warning: mention of relationship abuse, suicide, and self-harm

Disclaimer

Disclaimer: My other blog posts are me trying to convey how I view the world, my opinion, or takeaways from experiences I've had. My Letter posts are about expressing my emotions more directly, often what I feel least capable of communicating in everyday life, often from my worse states of mind. They are not representative …

Happy Single Awareness Day!

I used to want to forget about the existance of Valentine's Day. Now, I want to transform it into something positive. Maybe I've been too traumatized by loneliness to fully forget about this celebration, and this is my only way of dealing with my feelings around it anymore. Whatever the reason, I'm sure it's a …

How to Select for What

This is a letter to myself that I have edited for privacy. My favourite video game selects for people using video games to escape reality because they're too lonely. It doesn't select for people close to me. I need something that selects for people who are looking for connection and are close to me, and …

Love Me

Love me.Hold me.Kiss me.Adore me. Need me. Need me as much as I need you.Guide me. Guide me to healing old and new. Hold me. Hold me like you'll never let me go.Trust me. Trust me through troubles high and low. Want me. Want my body, my love, my heart, my mind.Run with me. Run …

How Do I Make Friends?

"How do I make friends?" It sounds like something a 5-year-old might say, but not a 10-year-old. Is this because all 10-year-olds already know how to make friends? Given the on-going issue of loneliness in people of all ages, I think not. By the time a kid is 10 years old, they've learned a lot …

What Leads to Abuse?

One day someone was watching a movie in the same room I was in, and the screen and sound captured my attention for a while. The movie seemed to be about a small group of people trying to bring attention to the problem of sexual abuse in relationships. At one point, one of the women …

Addiction

I had a working definition of addiction as something that "inefficiently satisfies an unmet need", with my definition of need being "anything that makes you healthier". With this definition, I identified myself as being addicted to my favourite video game; it partially satisfies my need for community, but would never fulfil it completely, being only …

Don’t talk to me about hope

Don't talk to me about hope. Don't talk to me about seeing the light, about glistening waterdrops on the edge of a leaf, about love, about sunshine filtering through to the very bottom of a cave. Talk to me about how to burn this fucking world down. Talk to me about change, big, systemic change. …